Six Rules to Make People Like You
- Become genuinely interested in other people
By showing interest in others they will re pay the favor. They will show interest which would make it a good conversation. plus when you show interest it will make it easier to talk to you. When it's easy to talk to you it is so easy to open up. To talk to you about their feelings. Which when that happens will make them like you more. Since you will be the good friend who was always there to listen. To open up to about things that are bothering them
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3. Remember Names
Remembering names seems like a small little detail but it is still important. When someone doesn't remember your name and calls you something else it hurts. Not a lot but a it's a little pain that bites at you and it makes you want a bit angry at the person. You probably start to think that they don't really like you and that they think less of you. It goes both ways. If you call someone something else they will think the exact same way you would. They would most likely think if not more as badly as you would. You don't want that if your trying to have a conversation with them. If you want them to like you. To close a deal, to make a new friend, etc.. you need people to like you if you want to succeed in life. So don't forget there names.
4. Be a Good Listener. Encourage Others to Talk About Themselves
The best therapy is simply just talking about your feelings. It lets all your emotions out and you can hear what you really think. Plus having someone there to listen to your problems can also help. Why is that? Why is it when we let someone else learn about our problems that we feel better? It could be because it's nice to know there is someone who knows what your going through. Maybe it makes you feel like they have a solution. If they don't then they will maybe at least try to help you out. Its nice and very therapeutic to let someone else know your problems. So make sure that every once and a while you listen. You don't have to say anything just listen.
5. Talk in terms of the other man's interest
You shouldn't always talk about what you like. Give them a chance to say and talk about their interests. That's a good way to keep them into the conversation. Not only keep them but also interest them in the conversation. It's also a great way to warm them up. Like for a business deal talk about their interest that way they will be interested in what you have for sale. If not for a sale then just do it to be polite. No one wants to talk to someone who only talks and wants to hear what they want. Those are the worse kind of people to conversation with. It can even make some people angry and frustrated at the other person. That's why you should talk about their interest just as much as yours.
6. Make the other person feel important--- and do it sincerely
Everybody wants to be somebody important. They want to feel like their special and unique. Thats because their not. Most humans are alike in almost every single way. We all want power, influence, and a good life. The important people have all of these, thats why their important. So even if it's fake make them feel like they matter. Like they are the most unique person you ever met. Just to make them feel good. It kinda sounds a bit selfish but it's still a nice thing to make others feel good. Its not even that hard. Just listen to what they have to say, give them your undivided attention, and go along with their opinions. They will feel important that they matter to you more than any one else. Now there are two reasons why you would want to do this. 1) your trying to get something from them. Such as money, opportunities, or a business deal. 2) your just being nice. That's because their is nothing better than feeling important.
7. Reflection
Writing these reflections really got me thinking about things i could change. Mostly in conversation though. Like even if your not interested you should act it. Plus making the other person feel important. just little things i saw i could improve on.
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3. Remember Names
Remembering names seems like a small little detail but it is still important. When someone doesn't remember your name and calls you something else it hurts. Not a lot but a it's a little pain that bites at you and it makes you want a bit angry at the person. You probably start to think that they don't really like you and that they think less of you. It goes both ways. If you call someone something else they will think the exact same way you would. They would most likely think if not more as badly as you would. You don't want that if your trying to have a conversation with them. If you want them to like you. To close a deal, to make a new friend, etc.. you need people to like you if you want to succeed in life. So don't forget there names.
4. Be a Good Listener. Encourage Others to Talk About Themselves
The best therapy is simply just talking about your feelings. It lets all your emotions out and you can hear what you really think. Plus having someone there to listen to your problems can also help. Why is that? Why is it when we let someone else learn about our problems that we feel better? It could be because it's nice to know there is someone who knows what your going through. Maybe it makes you feel like they have a solution. If they don't then they will maybe at least try to help you out. Its nice and very therapeutic to let someone else know your problems. So make sure that every once and a while you listen. You don't have to say anything just listen.
5. Talk in terms of the other man's interest
You shouldn't always talk about what you like. Give them a chance to say and talk about their interests. That's a good way to keep them into the conversation. Not only keep them but also interest them in the conversation. It's also a great way to warm them up. Like for a business deal talk about their interest that way they will be interested in what you have for sale. If not for a sale then just do it to be polite. No one wants to talk to someone who only talks and wants to hear what they want. Those are the worse kind of people to conversation with. It can even make some people angry and frustrated at the other person. That's why you should talk about their interest just as much as yours.
6. Make the other person feel important--- and do it sincerely
Everybody wants to be somebody important. They want to feel like their special and unique. Thats because their not. Most humans are alike in almost every single way. We all want power, influence, and a good life. The important people have all of these, thats why their important. So even if it's fake make them feel like they matter. Like they are the most unique person you ever met. Just to make them feel good. It kinda sounds a bit selfish but it's still a nice thing to make others feel good. Its not even that hard. Just listen to what they have to say, give them your undivided attention, and go along with their opinions. They will feel important that they matter to you more than any one else. Now there are two reasons why you would want to do this. 1) your trying to get something from them. Such as money, opportunities, or a business deal. 2) your just being nice. That's because their is nothing better than feeling important.
7. Reflection
Writing these reflections really got me thinking about things i could change. Mostly in conversation though. Like even if your not interested you should act it. Plus making the other person feel important. just little things i saw i could improve on.
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